“We all suffer until we realize we don’t have to.”
Mental illness does not excuse domestic violence.
Mental illness does not excuse abuse.
Mental illness does not make these things okay or in any way acceptable.
It absolutely doesn’t, but people with mental illness are still WAYYYYYYYYYYYY more likely to be victims of violence than perpetrators, as the media often paints them to be (perpetrators).
I always feel weird about stuff like this. Yes, I agree with the above, of course - it’s something I’m also vocal about. However, I feel hijacking the intent of the post derails why I wrote it in the first place. When I make a post, I word things with thought and purpose, and things were no different when I wrote this original post.
Lately, I have been working with women who have been abused by men, who cite their PTSD, their bipolar disorder, their depression, their alleged sociopathy for why they are batterers. They use it to “explain” and “excuse” the behavior; they use it to manipulate the woman and make her feel guilty; they use it to make her feel like she doesn’t have any right to share it with anyone else (since the illness and how he “deals” with it is his business.
Just to bring it home: I wrote this post, as is, for a reason. This post had a place and a purpose.
“You’ve become so damaged that when someone tries to give you what you deserve, you have no fucking idea how to respond.”
“Ancient moon priestesses were called virgins. ‘Virgin’ meant not married, not belonging to a man - a woman who was ‘one-in-herself’. The very word derives from a Latin root meaning strength, force, skill; and was later applied to men: virile. Ishtar, Diana, Astarte, Isis were all called virgin, which did not refer to sexual chastity, but sexual independence. And all great culture heroes of the past, mythic or historic, were said to be born of virgin mothers: Marduk, Gilgamesh, Buddha, Osiris, Dionysus, Genghis Khan, Jesus - they were all affirmed as sons of the Great Mother, of the Original One, their worldly power deriving from her. When the Hebrews used the word, and in the original Aramaic, it meant ‘maiden’ or ‘young woman’, with no connotations to sexual chastity. But later Christian translators could not conceive of the ‘Virgin Mary’ as a woman of independent sexuality, needless to say; they distorted the meaning into sexually pure, chaste, never touched.”
— Monica Sjoo, The Great Cosmic Mother: Rediscovering the Religion of the Earth (via alavendermenace
If you only had 4 words to tell your younger self something, what would they be?
Get a job now.
Practice your violin more.
Don’t leave the piano.
This won’t be forever.
spare some junk, kid?
Run, really really fast.
Go be a jeweler.
Stay off the flovent
Auntie Honey is wrong.
Trust in your self.
He’s not worth it.
"the most polish slogan ever" ??
I’d also like to add that the possibility of death is roughly reckoned to occur from about 0.4 BAC (amount of alcohol in blood). But in the summer, a man was taken to hospital with 1.374% of alcohol in the blood, and survived. That’s over three times the dose you’re recommended not to exceed! (source in Polish).
Encyclopedia Britannica once stated that the lethal dose of alcohol in blood does not apply to Polish and Russian people.