Mental illness does not excuse domestic violence.
Mental illness does not excuse abuse.
Mental illness does not make these things okay or in any way acceptable.
It absolutely doesn’t, but people with mental illness are still WAYYYYYYYYYYYY more likely to be victims of violence than perpetrators, as the media often paints them to be (perpetrators).
I always feel weird about stuff like this. Yes, I agree with the above, of course - it’s something I’m also vocal about. However, I feel hijacking the intent of the post derails why I wrote it in the first place. When I make a post, I word things with thought and purpose, and things were no different when I wrote this original post.
Lately, I have been working with women who have been abused by men, who cite their PTSD, their bipolar disorder, their depression, their alleged sociopathy for why they are batterers. They use it to “explain” and “excuse” the behavior; they use it to manipulate the woman and make her feel guilty; they use it to make her feel like she doesn’t have any right to share it with anyone else (since the illness and how he “deals” with it is his business.
Just to bring it home: I wrote this post, as is, for a reason. This post had a place and a purpose.